When I was younger I truly never envisioned raising a daughter.Honestly it was one of those things where I had pictured myself having all boys for so long, that I forgot I had a 50/50 shot at the opposite happening!
The day I found out I was to be expecting a little girl I remember thinking to myself “What will I tell her about life and all the ups and downs of it all?”
My daughter is almost two years old and in such a short time, she has taught me so much about myself as a woman. She has also made me hyper aware of how I judge myself and speak about myself. I never want to teach her to think she is anything less than perfect.
The last few weeks had been hard on me, due to summer festivities and the task of finding a bathing suit that made me feel more human, less blubbery mess that had been squished into spandex material. I came across a site that made flattering swim suits not just for adults, but for little girls as well. As I scrolled through Rad Swim‘s collection I was instantly in love with the Mommy and Me Kylee suits.
First off, I hate ordering anything offline because I cant try it on first. Like most women, I am super picky of all my “not so flattering” zones. I figured the suits were too darn cute to pass up and went ahead with it. When they arrived I was nervous to try mine on. My daughter on the other hand, was ecstatic. She tried taking off the clothes she was wearing just to put her suit on.
At what age do we stop treating life like a small child? She had no care in the world about her pudgy belly, her thigh rolls or whether the cut was just right. (Clearly she doesn’t know to think about these things, but that’s the point) All she cared for was this fun new bathing suit that she needed to put on IMMEDIATELY!
I went in my room and closed the door. Before I showed my husband, I had to critique myself first. (Sad but it’s true). Truth is I loved how the suit made me feel. Everything was tucked in and in place.( How often does that happen on the first try?!) When I came out of the room, wearing the same suit as my little girl she was so happy! My husband looked at me and smiled “It looks really good on you!” Instantly I felt myself stand taller. I pulled my shoulders back and held my head up.
I felt sexy in a bathing suit!!!
( Yes all you lovelies at Rad Swim, you made a mom of four feel sexy in a one piece)
It was at that moment that I realized something very important. My daughter doesn’t care that my hips are big. My daughter has no clue that my boobs aren’t perky. My daughter could care less that my tummy isn’t tight like it used to be. All she cared about, was that Mommy looked like her.
Whether I am rocking a Rad Swim bathing suit to the pool or a parka to the mountains, I hope my daughter continues to teach me to see myself the way she sees HERSELF…just as she is. The world makes us believe that we are less than perfect. Social media and main stream television… It’s all a lie.
My one goal in life is to raise my daughter to believe that she is the best damn thing to ever walk the earth and never for a moment to let the world allow her to doubt that.
It may have started with a simple online purchase from Rad Swim but it ended with a life lesson in loving myself because she loves me more.
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